Good conversations. Not easy & not frequent. But when it happens, magic, right? Sometimes you know people well enough that you can feel completely comfortable saying whatever is on your mind and you won’t be judged nor will you judge them. Very rare.
If you are a good communicator you have the intent for what you want to say and try to say that. For it to work, you have to check with the other person and be patient enough to know that they understand what you were trying to say. And… the hard part at least for me is that you have to be patient enough to deeply listen to them. That’s a skill and art that you have to practice. For some people it comes more natural. For some people you have to work at it. I’m one of the latter.
A good strategy when someone is trying to tell you something that is important is to stop take a deep breath and just listen. Let go trying to come up with what you want to say next. Don’t think about. Listen to understand them when there is a pause ask them questions so you can understand better. Then and only them say something along the lines of…”Let me see if I got it. What you are trying to tell me is… blah, blah, blah. Did I get it right?” But don’t actually say blah, blah, blah or yadda, yadda, yadda. If you do they’ll think you don’t give a shit about the words that just came out of their mouth. Be decent, be kind, and yadda, yadda, yadda, all that friend shit you know?
Good Conversations. A good thing. Now watch this.